Bumps in the road


The morning started like any other- up at 5 a.m., out the door by 5:30 to take my daughter, Channing, to basketball practice. Back home shortly later, my husband Steve and I proceeded to get ready for work when my phone rang at 6:45. It was Channing's number, but her coach was on the line:  "Channing fell. Her patella (knee cap) is completely out. Should we call an ambulance?"

"No," I replied. "We're on our way."

When things like this happen, I go into an overly calm mode.  I have two children who are heavily involved in sports, so experience has taught me that freaking out holds no constructive purpose. We rushed to the school where Channing lay on the gym floor, clearly in pain but calm as well. My husband is a physician, and he easily popped her patella back into its socket. We took Channing to our clinic to X-ray her knee.

Channing underwent a patella repair almost two years ago, and X-ray results revealed she had again detached her patella. A second surgery was imminent. She was done with basketball for the season and would miss the entire spring season of softball as well. We were all pretty upset, but again, I displayed no visible reaction. 

People sometimes perceive that I'm not reacting because I'm in denial or maybe I don't care. Neither is the case. In life, there will be bumps in the road - some bigger than others, but there will be unavoidable bumps.  Bumps in the road are an important part of learning and growing. Getting caught up in the mindset of "Why me?" or "What else?" are stagnant pitfalls that will skew your vision of life. They leave a person feeling angry, negative, and fearful. When a bump is hit, it is far more constructive to examine the situation. Asking yourself questions such as, "What am I supposed to learn from this?" can help you make better decisions in the future. We become more self-aware and stronger individuals. Sometimes we can't find an answer, because sometimes, things happen for no apparent or explicable reason. This too is a part of life.

Life is meant for us to live. Life wants us to take risks, embrace our passions and venture outside of our comfort zones. My kids love sports. We love sports. We are passionate about it all. We were not put on this earth to cower in fear, shrouded in uncertainty, immobilized by real or imagined dangers. We were put on this earth to live life to its fullest. There will always be that margin of error, the unknown where something bad can happen. There will always be bumps. 

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