In marriage, you vow to be true to your spouse, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do you part.
Over the weekend, we really tested those vows.
Taking care of on-the-move twins is one thing, but throw in a sick husband over a four day weekend, then all bets are off.
My husband had some dental work done that left him almost paralyzed in pain. All of our Easter weekend plans were out the window and all the heavy lifting fell on me, good old mom. Don’t get me wrong, I’m used to taking care of my squad alone, but the fact that I had another adult a few feet away that couldn’t chase a toddler, was such a tease.
I didn’t want to be angry, because who wants to be in pain and spent their weekend in and out of the emergency room, but I couldn’t help it. I never get to take a knee.
I was really looking forward to spending the long weekend together, getting out and about, checking things off my spring cleaning list and overall just spending time together.
Ever since he took command, it’s been a lot of late nights and early mornings. And like most plans made in this crazy Army life, I was forced to solider on and make the best of it.
Once my pity party was over and I got into the swing of things, I realized that even though the weekend wasn’t going according to my original plan, we were at least still all together under the same roof. There will be more egg hunts and more opportunities to wear our Sunday best, but what’s really important is just being together as a family in our day-to-day interactions.
I have been so focused on taking care of these two little humans that this acted as a refresher course on how to take care of my husband. Even heroes need healing and I somehow forgot that he’s human too.
He would have much rather been covered in bath time bubbles than curled up in pain and he needed me to hold down the fort so he could get well.
I realized that he needed me.
Our life has changed so much in the past few years, but one thing remains constant, our relationship is the foundation upon which our family rests. It‘s easy to put the kids before your spouse, but at the end of the day, your spouse is the person that you chose to spend the rest of your life with and I kind of forgot I promised to take care of him.
In my day-to-day life, I am so focused on the kids and what they need that I often put myself and my relationship last. Now it’s time to reconnect with my husband, my partner in twinning, and to show our kids what an Army strong family really looks like.
Marriage takes teamwork and it can be filled with ups and downs, blessings and challenges and no matter what life throws at you — twins, tooth pain, Army life — you have someone to ride the ride with.
Vanessa Lynch is a former metro editor at Killeen Daily Herald. An Army spouse, Lynch and her husband live in Harker Heights with their two children.