• December 9, 2016

Dr Rebecca Marsh

Dr Rebecca Marsh
  • Dr Rebecca Marsh
  • Correspondent Blogger
  • Hello there! My name is Dr. Rebecca J. Marsh, and i am a Clinical Psychologist who has been practicing in the Central Texas area since 1996. I'm very excited to share my new blog with you. Reaching out, effecting change, connecting with others and living better.
Living with fortitude

Life is full of unexpected blows. The only way to minimize them (you'll never completely rid yourself) is to restrict your life. Restrict your heart. I refuse to do that. I'm "sunny" enough in my approach to life to truly believe that some blows really are accidental. I'm also realistic enough to accept that some are deliberate, even orchestrated.

As I am reeling in shock, confusion, and disbelief, it is natural for my mind, my heart, to try to figure out "Why?" You know what I told myself? Don't. It's wasted energy. I am only trying to figure out and resolve someone else's issues and in the process am shrouding myself with their dysfunction.

I will not......stop being me. For every person who tries to sabotage or undermine me, there are twice as many who support, encourage, respect, admire and love the me that is me!

I looked up the root "Fort" in my effort to process and move forward constructively from quite an agonizing blow. Here is what I found:

"fortified place, stronghold," from Middle French fort, from noun use in Old French of fort (adj.) "strong, fortified" (10c.), from Latin fortis "strong, mighty, firm, steadfast," from Old Latin forctus, possibly from PIE root *bhergh- (2) "high, elevated," with derivatives referring to hills and hill-forts (cognates: Sanskrit brmhati "strengthens, elevates," Old High German berg "hill;" see barrow (n.2)).

And here is what I will do and advise others to do as well. I will fortify my heart. I will continue to live my life with fortitude. I will not instead retreat behind a fortress and deny myself of all the wonder, beauty, richness and true love that life and its relationships bear. It's not my dungeon.

Head held high. Shoulders squared. Feet firmly on the ground and marching forward. Progressing. Learning. Growing.

Heart open for business. Now and always.

The sounds of silence

Phone ringin’. Baby screamin’. Dog barkin’ at the mailman bringing that stack of bills, overdue. Good mornin’ baby, How are you?

These are the lyrics in Phil Vassar’s hit country music song “Another Day in Paradise” but they are true for most of us on a daily basis. As a working mother with two very active teenagers, I can relate to the noise, the hustle and bustle, the chaos. Especially in our era, with laptops, iPhones, all the social media, there seems to be no end to life being “on” and turned up loudly. But does it have to be like that? 

Love's purity

I witnessed true love in its purest form today. I'm not sure if I can even find the right words to describe the depth of emotion I saw exchanged and felt myself. I've never been to a wedding where such love was so crystal clear. The emotion of it all overpowered me, inspired me and cleansed me.

Both groom and bride became so overwhelmed with emotion when reading the personal vows they had prepared that they literally were choked up. Several times, the groom, a very large man with even larger, football-player hands, very softly, sweetly wiped the tears off of his wife's cheeks. It wasn't cheesy or dramatic. It was absolutely beautiful, and moved every person in attendance- men and women- to tears.

Pushing past excuses

For as long as I can remember, I've loved the outdoors. My mother instilled this in me: noticing new buds on the flower bushes, bird nests, the smell of fresh-cut grass. Having a love of nature goes hand in hand with being an active person. Starting in my teen years, I have lived a healthy life of eating well and strengthening my body.

I intentionally avoided the using the word "exercise", because that holds negative connotations for many people.  For me personally, an active lifestyle and healthy eating are not just for weight management. It's more about being centered and strong- physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually.

Pushing past excuses

For as long as I can remember, I've loved the outdoors. My mother instilled this in me: noticing new buds on the flower bushes, bird nests, the smell of fresh-cut grass. Having a love of nature goes hand in hand with being an active person. Starting in my teen years I have lived a healthy life of eating well and strengthening my body. I intentionally avoided the use of the word "exercise," because that holds negative connotations for many people. For me personally, body work and healthy eating are not just for weight management. It's more about being centered and strong - physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

Here in Texas, we have experienced a particularly nasty winter that seems to keep going on and on. So, around the Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays, I began to run or even to walk outside less and less. After the first of the year, I stopped completely. While I recognize that I could very well work out to fitness tapes or to go to one of our many local gyms, I didn't. I don't like to do that. I don't experience the release, the mental and emotional cleansing, the satisfaction that being outside brings me. But not doing anything was taking its toll. I felt increasingly crabby, slept fitfully and wasn't as mindful about my food choices. Something had to change.

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