DEAR DR. GRAHAM:I know the economy is supposed to be getting better, but it sure hasn’t helped me find a job. Part of the problem is that I’m in my 50s now, and no one wants to hire people my age. Why won’t God help me? I feel so useless. — F.B.
DEAR F.B.:The most important thing I can tell you is that you are not useless — not in God’s eyes. He cares about you and knows all about your situation, and He wants to help you. You can trust His promise: “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you” (Hebrews 13:5).
What steps should you take? First, thank God for His love for you — and respond to His love by committing your life to Jesus Christ. Right now, you may wonder if God even cares about you, but He does, and the proof is that He sent His Son into the world to purchase your salvation.
When we give our lives to Christ, God welcomes us into His family and makes us His children forever. Why not make your decision for Christ today?
Then commit your future to God, and ask Him to lead you as you seek employment.
Be open to whatever He has for you — even retraining for another job, if that’s possible.
Don’t be a defeatist, but see your age and your experience as potential assets. Wise employers know that older workers often are the most dependable and responsible.
In the meantime, ask God to fill your days with useful activities.
Can your church or other agencies in your community use you as a volunteer? Does your church have a Bible study for people your age? God has said, “I know the plans I have for you... plans to give you hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11).
DEAR DR. GRAHAM:I suppose it makes sense to believe in God, but I’m not sure I believe in Jesus the way you preachers say we should. Where does He fit into the picture? Isn’t it enough to believe in God? — R.N.M.
DEAR R.N.M.:It’s certainly important to believe in God; if we don’t, we have no lasting hope — either of His help right now or of life beyond the grave. The Bible says, “Anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him” (Hebrews 11:6).
But how do we know what God is like? How do we know He isn’t a cruel monster, or that He even cares about us? We know it because over 2,000 years ago God did something that staggers our imagination: He came down from heaven and became a man. That man was Jesus, who was both fully God and fully man. Do you want to know what God is like? Look at Jesus, for He was God in human flesh. As the Bible says: “In Christ all the fullness of the Deity lives in bodily form” (Colossians 2:9).
But Jesus is crucial for another reason: He came to free us from our bondage to sin. You see, only one thing separates us from God, and that is our sin. But on the cross Jesus Christ became the final and complete sacrifice for our sins. By trusting Him and what He has done for us, we are forgiven and saved.
God loves you; He loves you so much that Jesus Christ came down to earth to show you His love and bring you back to Himself. By a simple prayer of faith put yourself into His hands and make Him the center of your life. You’ll never regret it.
DEAR DR. GRAHAM:I don’t understand myself. Our marriage broke up a year ago because of my husband’s unfaithfulness, and yet I’ve been overwhelmed with guilt ever since. I’m so confused. Why do I feel this way? At the time, I was glad to be rid of him. — N. McF.
DEAR N. MCF.:Recently, someone told me about an article they’d read suggesting that divorce was a painless solution to most marriage difficulties. But it simply isn’t true — as you’ve discovered.
Even when divorce looks like the best solution, it almost always brings with it an unexpected harvest of anger, loneliness, financial burdens, depression and even guilt. I don’t know if your marriage could have been saved, but perhaps your letter will cause some to rethink their plans to get divorced, and seek instead — with God’s help — to keep their marriage together. No wonder Jesus said concerning marriage, “Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate” (Mark 10:9).
Why do you feel guilty? Perhaps down inside you know you could have done more — right from the beginning — to make your marriage work. Did you do everything you possibly could to make your home a happy and loving place? This isn’t to excuse your husband for what he did; it was very wrong. But in any marriage both spouses need to work to make their home a place of peace and fulfillment.
Learn from the past, but don’t be a prisoner to it. Instead, seek God’s forgiveness for any ways you might have failed, and put your life and your future into Christ’s hands. God loves you, and your life will never be the same once you realize it. Invite Christ into your life today. The Bible says, “Blessed are those who have learned to... walk in the light of your presence, Lord” (Psalm 89:15).
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